Kissing Dating Goodbye

Isis' insights were triggered by Joshua Harris he wrote a book called I Kissed Dating Goodbye which I never read...
He is controversial (^_^)

So I thought to write my insights... watch this video first :)



Well you can say that I followed that "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" for almost my entire life... (till recently this year)
and as I said ... never read the book... but somewhat instinctively followed...

During my teenage years to college (influenced by my Dad) up to when I was already working in the office...
Never experience date "alone with a guy" it is always been a group date... Whenever a guy asked me out... I would reply.. "who's coming?"
if he replies "ahh just us?"
my answer "hmmm I don't know..."
then he would quickly say "oh you can ask (her/him) to come along, how about that?"
Then I would say yes :)

So basically, if someone asks me out it must be with a group or at least with someone I know :)

If he is serious, he can visit the house and talk to me... (with my parents in other areas of the house of course) He can't come if I'm home alone.

Because of Old fashioned?
Maybe I am... raised in Spanish / Filipino Culture... the female must be self-controlled and decent.
But if you looked in Spain at the moment they are the most vulgar and passionate for public display of affection (^_^)
And, the new generation Filipino nowadays they call it Single but have "Live-in" or in "complicated" situation...

I'm not saying that in our family, females are "Maria Clara" (symbolizes the purity and innocence of a sheltered native Filipina woman.)
There are some of my cousins who have been pregnant before marriage... no family is perfect.. even how much a parent can be controlling... if the child can't be controlled... then what?

This video has an impact:



We can all make a bad/good decision, right?
It is all up to our-self to make decisions in our life. Parents are there to guide and influence their children, But still, a child can make a decision against his/her parent.

"Blood is thicker than water."

Means Someone will choose a relative than a none relative...

Depends on how you analyze the situation...
Can Blood still be thicker than water even He didn't choose his parents' desire for him? Yes, I think so :)
How was it so? 

 
When the parents realize - his son's decision in his own life that makes him happy... the blood parent will choose its own son's decision :) right?
Parents will understand in the end even though there will be no communication.

So back to "kissing dating goodbye"... at some point yes there was a mistake in that idea ... dating is an important part of any relationship, dating is equivalent to bonding, better to date someone, and be alone with the person, to get to know him/her better... but still with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. We can date and have bonding moments with someone without sex right? (^_^)

Anyway, the way I see Josh Harris at the moment,
(I am not judging Josh Harris... only God can judge him.)
... just reminds me of the verse written in the Bible:

Matthew 7:13
The Narrow and Wide Gates
13 “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.

For explanation https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_7:13

I'm not saying that he is going to the "gate of destruction", what matters is what will happen in the End...

Will you and me still decide in the last minute to accept Jesus Christ in our heart and mind and know that it is really not in our own effort to "do this and that" but its HIS Salvation that can save us.

Now, my insights for Dawn Smith, you will know if the Church organization is a cult.. because most of "who is on top" of that organization are family-related members and they are too controlling to its members, (I mean even the hair cut and all? The Bible didn't say anything about hair cut and etc...) Only those who are in "Religious Cult" that have too many man-made rules.
Religion was never created by God ... it was created by humans.

There were only 10 Commandments in the Old Testament and only one (1) commandment by Jesus Christ in the New Testament.

I dress conservative and have long hair, not because of the church I belong with at the moment, its because I love having long hair!

And, don't like exposing too much skin everywhere I go...
but yes, I do wear the right outfit at the right time!
Like if we go night swimming ... don't expect me to wear long sleeves swimsuit... of course not!
(^_^) I often do the late afternoon practice slot in swimming lessons before, cause I do not need to carry heavy long sleeves suit, which also saves me money from putting on sunblock. A good one 100ml sunblock costs around 300+ pesos!

When I was young from being a baby to 15 years old, my mother always cut my hair short as in "boy cut" (see the sample of Boy Cut left image) the longest I got was up to my chin only - called "apple cut!" She cut it like every month or 2 months. I don't like it because I can't tie my hair, and it irritates my eyes having bangs!

[image at right below is not me but a sample of apple cut.] (^_^)

So it is never about the conservative old fashioned upbringing ... it is really my choice!
To wear conservative clothes, have long hair and don't wear nail polish and makeup on a regular basis but on the selective formal occasion of course!

At 15 y/o... I did not let anybody touch my hair... and I stop going to the parlor... just to avoid anybody convincing me to cut my hair ... never had any parlor treatment like hot oil or re-bond as most people think, but I did color my own hair before at home not inside the parlor ... (^_^)

Up to now I only go to the parlor like every year or last time was 2017 I think hmmm can't remember :)
I usually just cut my hair.

About organization Calvary Chapel Davao (based in Calvary Chapel Costa Mesa) - they never implement anything too controlling except the fact they don't allow someone "who is serving the church" (worship team, elders, teachers, etc...) to have a relationship with none believer in Christ and Bible. It must be with the same faith.
But if you would want to have a relationship with none believer, then step down from "serving" the church...
Still, you can join the fellowship and be with us in gathering... it is not like you be executed and outcast as what Dawn Smith experienced "in their assembly".

The Bible says "Jesus loves us first while we are sinners"...

Romans 5:8 New International Version (NIV)
8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

so if they are true "Christ Follower" why would they execute and outcast those who did wrong (in their sight) called "sinners"?
When Christ and God himself love us while we are sinners right?... means we can only hate the "sin" but not the "sinners". And, there is a bit different meaning between two words. :)

Most people think of me as too "righteous" because in the way I "act and talk".
And, I post Bible verses in my social media account...
but the reality is, in my heart and mind I'm not judging anybody (the Bible verses I posted was a reminder for me, myself, and I!)

If you have committed a sin...and saw my post and hit you?
Although my initial reaction is somewhat negative, Hey! If you did something negative - expect a negative reaction :)
I'm also a human being that can stumble and commit a sin!
It is NOT for me to judge... as well as for you to judge me as righteous...

God Almighty himself alone will judge everyone in this world - I included :)

Anyway, at this point, about what happened to Josh Harris, I came to realize that it's never what anybody would think about what we do or commit... it's only between God and me... every action we take is our own responsibility to God.

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